You want to buy a sex toy – but don't know where to start? No problem. This guide will walk you through it step-by-step: from the basics to materials and categories, all the way to care, safety, and frequently asked questions. Whether you're buying a toy for the first time or looking to expand your collection – here you'll find everything you need to know.
🧭 Table of Contents
- Why Sex Toys? Benefits at a Glance
- Materials: What's Safe, What's Not?
- Overview of the Most Important Categories
- Recommendations for Beginners
- For Advanced Users: More Intensity & Variety
- Sex Toys for Couples
- Lubricant: The Underestimated Accessory
- Cleaning & Care
- Discrete Purchase & Shipping
- FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions
💡 Why Sex Toys? Benefits at a Glance
Sex toys are no longer a taboo subject – they are a normal part of a healthy, self-determined sex life. Studies show that people who use sex toys develop a better body awareness, more sexual satisfaction, and a stronger connection to their own needs.
- ✅ Self-discovery: Get to know your body and your preferences better
- ✅ More intense orgasms: Targeted stimulation that hands alone often can't achieve
- ✅ Stress reduction: Sexual satisfaction is proven to be relaxing
- ✅ Couple dynamics: Experimenting together strengthens intimacy and communication
- ✅ Body positive: No pressure to perform, no comparisons – just you and your pleasure
🔬 Materials: What's Safe, What's Not?
The material of a sex toy is one of the most important factors when buying – and unfortunately often underestimated. Not all materials are body-safe. Here's a clear overview:
✅ Body-safe Materials
- Medical-grade silicone: The gold standard. Non-porous, easy to clean, skin-friendly, durable. Ideal for all body areas.
- Borosilicate glass: Hygienic, temperature-controlled (warm/cold), very smooth. Perfect for G-spot or prostate stimulation.
- Stainless steel: Heavy, smooth, temperature-controlled. Particularly popular for anal plugs and BDSM toys.
- ABS plastic (hard): Non-porous, easy to clean, often used in vibrators.
⚠️ Materials to Use with Caution
- TPE/TPR: Soft and inexpensive, but porous – difficult to disinfect completely. Condom recommended.
- PVC/Vinyl: May contain plasticizers (phthalates). Use only with a condom.
- Cyberskin/Realfeel: Very realistic feel, but porous and delicate to care for.
💡 Tip: If you are unsure whether a material is body-safe – hold a lighter briefly to an inconspicuous spot. Silicone does not burn, but turns black and leaves no smell. Cheap materials melt or smell chemical.
🗂️ Overview of the Most Important Categories
💜 Vibrators
The classic par excellence. Vibrators come in countless shapes: as a bullet vibrator for external stimulation, as a G-spot vibrator with a curved tip, as a rabbit vibrator for simultaneous stimulation, or as a wand massager for maximum power.
- For whom: All genders, beginners to advanced users
- What to look for: Waterproofing, volume, vibration patterns, battery capacity
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🔴 Dildos
Dildos are non-vibrating penetration toys in various shapes, sizes, and materials. From realistic to abstract, from slender to XXL – the selection is huge.
- For whom: Anyone who likes penetration
- What to look for: Size (length & circumference), material, suction cup base for hands-free use
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🟣 Anal Toys
Anal plugs, anal vibrators, prostate stimulators, and anal beads – the anal area is an erogenous zone for all genders. Important: Always use a toy with a wide base or handle so nothing gets lost.
- For whom: Anyone who wants to explore anal stimulation
- What to look for: Safety base, size (start small!), plenty of lubricant
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🔵 Penis Rings & Cockrings
Cockrings are worn at the base of the penis (and optionally the scrotum) and slow down blood flow – the result: harder, longer-lasting erections and more intense orgasms.
- For whom: Penis owners, also suitable for couples
- What to look for: Stretchability, vibration function, wearing time (max. 20–30 min.)
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🟡 Masturbators & Strokers
Masturbators mimic the feeling of penetration and offer an intense alternative to the hand. From simple sleeves to automatic devices with suction function.
- For whom: Penis owners
- What to look for: Material (TPE vs. silicone), cleaning effort, intensity levels
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⚫ BDSM & Fetish Toys
Bondage ropes, handcuffs, paddles, masks, ball gags – BDSM is a broad field. Basic principle: everything is based on consent, communication, and clear agreements (safe word!).
- For whom: Anyone who wants to explore power dynamics and sensory experiences
- What to look for: Quality of materials, safety mechanisms, beginner-friendly sets
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🌱 Recommendations for Beginners
Buying a sex toy for the first time? These basic rules will help you get started right:
- Start small: Choose a moderate size – you can always upgrade later.
- Body-safe material: It's better to invest a little more in silicone than in cheap TPE.
- Waterproof: Makes cleaning and showering much easier.
- Rechargeable: Battery-powered toys are more sustainable and often more powerful than battery-operated toys.
- Quiet: Especially important if you don't live alone – pay attention to the volume specification.
🎯 Beginner's recommendation: A slender vibrator made of silicone with multiple vibration settings is the ideal entry point – versatile, easy to use, and suitable for all bodies. For anal beginners, we recommend anal toys for beginners.
🔥 For Advanced Users: More Intensity & Variety
You already know your preferences and want to explore new dimensions? Here are categories that are particularly interesting for experienced users:
- 🌀 Pressure wave vibrators: Contactless clitoral stimulation through air pressure waves – a game-changer for many. Discover now
- 📡 App-controlled toys: Remote control via smartphone – ideal for couples at a distance. Couples Choice
- 🔩 Prostate massagers: Specifically designed for the P-spot. Discover prostate toys
- 📏 Larger dildos & plugs: For those who appreciate stretching and fullness as stimulation. XXL Toys | Double Dildos
- 🌡️ Temperature-controlled toys: Heat or cool glass or steel in a water bath for intense sensory stimuli
💑 Sex Toys for Couples
Sex toys can enrich a relationship – not because something is missing, but because they enable new experiences and conversations. The best toys for couples:
- We-Vibe type vibrators: Worn during sex and stimulate both partners simultaneously
- Remote-controlled toys: One controls, the other enjoys – even over long distances
- Bondage sets for beginners: Blindfolds, fabric handcuffs – gentle introduction to power play
- Massage wands: Versatile, also as a foreplay tool
→ Discover all couple toys | Fetish & BDSM Toys
💬 Tip: Talk openly before buying about what you both want to try. The conversation itself can be exciting!
💧 Lubricant: The Underestimated Accessory
Lubricant is not an optional extra – it is essential for comfortable and safe sex toy use. Especially for anal play, sufficient lube is indispensable.
The three main types:
- 💦 Water-based: Universally applicable, compatible with silicone toys and condoms. Dries faster, may need to be reapplied.
- 🛢️ Silicone-based: Lasts longer, ideal for anal play and in water. Do not use with silicone toys (attacks the material).
- 🫒 Anal & Fisting Lubricant: Specially developed for intense anal stimulation, very long-lasting.
⚠️ Important: Never combine silicone lubricant with silicone toys – this can permanently damage the surface. When in doubt: water-based is always safe.
🧼 Cleaning & Care – How to Keep Your Toy Hygienic
Sex toys must be cleaned after every use – this is not an option, but a requirement. Improper cleaning can lead to bacterial growth and infections.
Cleaning by material:
- 🟢 Silicone (without electronics): Boil or clean in the dishwasher (top rack, without tablets)
- 🟢 Glass & stainless steel: Boil or wipe with disinfectant
- 🟡 Silicone with electronics: Wash with warm water and mild soap, do not immerse (unless waterproof)
- 🟡 TPE/TPR: Wash thoroughly with soap, condom recommended
- 🔴 Cyberskin: Only with special toy cleaner, then dust with powder
🗄️ Storage
- Store toys individually in fabric bags or their original packaging
- Do not store together with other toys (material reactions possible)
- Store in a cool, dry place away from light
- Charge batteries to approx. 50% before storage
📦 Discrete Purchase & Shipping
Many people hesitate to buy sex toys online for fear of prying eyes. Don't worry – at dildodave.de we place the highest value on discretion:
- 📬 Neutral packaging: No indication of the content or the shop on the outside
- 🏦 Discrete billing: The shop name does not appear on the bank statement
- 🔒 Data protection: Your data will not be passed on to third parties
- 🚚 Fast shipping: Often within 1–3 working days
❓ FAQ – Frequently Asked Questions about Sex Toys
Is it normal to use sex toys?
Absolutely. According to studies, over 50% of adults regularly use sex toys. It's a completely normal part of sexuality – whether solo or with a partner.
How big should my first toy be?
Smaller than you think. Many beginners overestimate themselves and buy too big. Start with a slender model and gradually work your way up. Our beginner toys and mini vibrators are ideal.
Can sex toys be addictive?
No – sex toys are not physically addictive. Some people report needing more stimulation after intense toy use. This is temporary and quickly normalizes.
Are expensive toys better?
Not necessarily – but quality has its price. Cheap toys made of questionable materials can be harmful to health. A good silicone toy for €40–80 is a worthwhile investment.
Can I use sex toys with my partner?
Yes – and it's highly recommended! Discover our couple toys for shared experiences.
How long do sex toys last?
With good care, high-quality silicone toys can last many years. Batteries can degrade after 2–3 years. Toys made of porous material should be replaced after 1–2 years.
🎯 Conclusion: Your Path to the Perfect Sex Toy
Buying a sex toy is a personal decision – and one you won't regret if you proceed well-informed. Pay attention to body-safe materials, choose a size that matches your experience, and don't forget the lubricant. Whether you're a beginner or a pro: there's a suitable toy for every body, every preference, and every budget.
Browse our entire range and get inspired – discreet, secure, and passionately curated.
