🔗 Strap-ons for new experiences as a couple
Strap-on dildos open up exciting possibilities for shared play. The adjustable harness sits on the hip or thigh while the dildo provides the stimulation. There are sets with a permanently fitted dildo as well as harnesses with an O-ring into which you can insert different dildos. This interchangeability is exactly what makes a harness the most flexible solution in the long run: one harness, many attachments.
✨ Which variants are there?
- Classic strap-ons – harness plus interchangeable dildo for maximum flexibility
- Strapless models – worn without a harness; an internal part is held by the wearer and stimulates them at the same time
- Double versions – stimulate both partners simultaneously, similar to double dildos
- Hollow strap-ons – with a hollow attachment, also suitable in cases of erectile difficulty
- Vibrating sets – with a motor in the dildo or in the harness plate
🎽 Harness types compared
- Two-strap harness – the straps run around waist and thighs. Very stable, leaves the crotch free.
- Three-strap harness – an additional centre strap, particularly secure during vigorous movement.
- Brief harness – looks like a pair of briefs, quick to put on and beginner-friendly.
- Thigh harness – worn on the leg and opens up completely different positions.
📏 Mind the size
Two measurements matter: the waist or hip circumference for the harness and the O-ring diameter for the dildo. The ring should be slightly smaller than the widest point of the dildo so it holds securely. Many harnesses come with several ring sizes – worth having if you plan to add more dildos later. Also make sure the dildo has a wide base or suction foot, otherwise it slips through the ring.
🧵 Harness material
- Nylon and neoprene: light, washable and inexpensive. The most straightforward choice to begin with.
- Leather: moulds to the body over time and then sits very firmly. In return it needs care and must not go in the machine.
- Fabric brief harness: spreads the pressure widely and is the quickest to put on – but less precisely adjustable.
💡 How to get started
Slim realistic or classic dildos are particularly well suited for the start. Put the harness on together beforehand and check the fit standing and moving – adjusting then is far more pleasant than mid-session. Always use enough lubricant and approach pace and depth together. For anal play the same applies: use thick anal lubricant and build up slowly. It helps if the wearer leads the movement at first – the lack of sensation in the dildo otherwise makes depth hard to judge.
After play, clean harness and dildo separately – the latter with sex toy cleaner. Tips on putting it on and choosing the right size can be found in the guide Using strap-on dildos. Textile harnesses usually tolerate hand washing at 30 degrees, leather is only wiped with a damp cloth.
❓ Frequently asked questions
Which O-ring size do I need?
Slightly smaller than the widest point of the dildo so it does not slip through. Sets with several rings are the most flexible solution if you buy more attachments later.
Can a strap-on help with erectile difficulties?
Yes, that is what hollow strap-ons are for. The penis rests inside the hollow attachment and the harness holds everything in place.
Does the wearer feel anything?
With classic models only indirectly, through pressure from the harness plate. Vibrating sets and strapless models with an internal part do stimulate the wearer as well.
How is it delivered?
In neutral packaging with no indication of the contents, and the charge on your bank statement is equally discreet.