Sex Toys for Beginners

🌱 Sex Toys for Beginners – Your gentle start into the world of toys

New to toys? Here you will find everything that makes the first step easy: handy sizes, gentle vibrations and starter sets to build up slowly. At dildodave.de you order discreetly – and thanks to the bestseller sorting you see straight away what has proven itself for beginners.

✨ Perfect for the start

• Lay-on vibrators – gentle stimulation with nothing to insert, the most popular way into vibrators
• Small dildos – handy beginner sizes up to 15 cm
• Vibrating eggs & love balls – a soft tingle and gentle pelvic floor training
• Starter sets – several sizes so you can work your way up
• Anal plugs for beginners – slim shapes with a finger grip, often in a set with matching lubricant
• Restraint sets – softly padded cuffs and straps for a first look at bondage

🧭 Where do you actually start?

The most common worry about a first toy is size – and it is usually the wrong question. By far the largest part of the 683 items in this category are lay-on vibrators: they are only placed against the outside, nothing is inserted, and the pressure of your own hand decides how intense it gets. Next come love balls and vibrating eggs. Only after that do the insertable toys follow.

If you are unsure, this is the honest order: outside first, then small, then bigger. A toy that is too much for you ends up in the drawer – one that was a touch too gentle you simply try again the next evening.

• ✅ Start on the outside – lay-on vibrators need no getting used to
• ✅ With insertable toys, begin with the smallest size
• ✅ Lowest vibration setting first, then work upwards
• 🚫 Don't buy the biggest model as a “safety margin”

💡 Tips for getting started

• Take your time – being relaxed and looking forward to it makes the difference
• A water-based lubricant makes everything more comfortable and works with every material
• Start small – lowest setting and smallest size first
• Hygiene – clean before and after use with a sex toy cleaner

🧪 Material and lubricant – the two things you learn once

For materials there is a simple rule of thumb: silicone, glass and metal are non-porous and can genuinely be cleaned properly. TPE and TPR feel softer but are porous – such toys stay personal items and get replaced after one or two years. For a first toy, silicone is the most straightforward choice. The differences in detail are explained in the material comparison.

For lubricant one rule is enough: water-based always fits – with every material and with condoms. Silicone-based gel lasts longer but leaves silicone toys permanently dull. So if you are just starting out, reach for water-based lubricant and you don't have to think about it any further. What matters for skin tolerance is covered in the guide to use and tolerability.

Looking for more gentle options? Then have a look at our collection Gentle Sex Toys.

How to set the mood for a first time together is described in the article The Perfect Foreplay. And if you come across a term you don't know, the erotic lexicon will help you out.

❓ Frequently asked questions

Which toy works best as a very first one?

A lay-on vibrator. It is used on the outside only, needs no getting used to, and you control the intensity yourself. That is also why this group is the largest one here.

Do I really need lubricant?

For anything that is inserted: yes. With lay-on vibrators it makes the glide nicer but is not a must. Water-based is always the safe choice.

Which size is right for the start?

The smallest one that makes you curious. Pay more attention to the diameter than to the length – a slim long model feels far more approachable than a short, thick one.

Are love balls suitable for beginners?

Yes, this is one of the gentlest ways in. Start with the lightest weight and a short wearing time and build up slowly. If it becomes uncomfortable, you simply take them out. More on this in the guide to love balls.

How do I clean my first toy?

Before and after every use – lukewarm water and a toy cleaner are enough. No scented soap, no alcohol, and only submerge rechargeable models if they are explicitly marked as waterproof.

How is it delivered?

In neutral packaging with nothing on it that hints at the contents, and the same goes for the entry on your bank statement. Shipping within Germany is free, with no minimum order value.