Blog post: Tips for the first time – What you should know
Having sex for the first time can be a very special and exciting experience, both for girls and boys. It is important that both partners really want this moment and are willing to get involved. If this is the case, the first time can be a beautiful and intimate experience. But as with many new experiences, there are often uncertainties and fears. In this blog post, we answer some of the most common questions and give you helpful tips to make the first time a positive experience.
Frequent fears and insecurities
Many people have some concerns before their first sexual intercourse. This is completely normal! Here are some of the most common fears:
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Pain during penetration : It is possible to experience a little pain the first time, especially if the hymen is still intact. However, this is nothing to be afraid of. With a relaxed body and good preparation (more on this below), you can avoid or minimize pain in most cases.
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Clumsiness or insecurity : No one becomes a "sex pro" the first time. It's not about doing everything perfectly, but about the shared experience and trust. Just let things happen and take the pressure off.
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Lack of experience : Although many people feel like they don't know exactly what to do before their first time, don't worry! Your body will guide you through the experience and the most important thing is to look after each other.
The right preparation
When you prepare for your first time, there are a few things to keep in mind:
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Make a conscious decision : The most important thing is that both partners are 100% sure that they want to take this step. If there are still doubts or concerns, it is better to wait.
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Avoid the shower or bath the first time : Although it is often portrayed as a romantic place in movies, water is not penetration's best friend. It can make penetration difficult and, in some cases, painful.
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The hymen and possible bleeding : Many girls are afraid that their first sexual intercourse will be painful or bloody. The hymen may tear the first time, causing a little bleeding. This is completely normal and should not cause you any concern. In some women, the hymen also tears during other activities such as exercise or inserting tampons.
Foreplay – An important part of the first time
Extensive foreplay can help both partners to relax and the woman to become wet enough to facilitate the penetration of the penis. Moisture is crucial to avoid unpleasant friction. If foreplay is not enough to moisten the vagina sufficiently, a water-based lubricant can help. In our shop you will find suitable, skin-friendly lubricants that make sexual intercourse more pleasant.
contraception and protection
Don't forget to think about contraception the first time! Condoms are a simple and effective way to prevent unwanted pregnancies and protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases. Even if you think you know each other well, you should never go without protection if you don't want to have children.
Which position is right for the first time?
There is no "right" or "wrong" position for the first time. However, the missionary position, where the woman lies on her back with her legs slightly bent while the partner lies on top of her, is a good choice. This position allows for easy and controlled penetration and can be pleasurable for both partners. The important thing is that you pay attention to each other and adjust the pace and depth of penetration to suit your needs.
Don't expect an instant orgasm
The first time is rarely like in the movies - an orgasm doesn't always come immediately. It's all about getting to know each other and finding out what you like. Don't be disappointed if you don't orgasm the first time. Over time, you'll learn what you like and how to really relax during sex.
Conclusion: Take your time and be patient
The first time can be a wonderful experience if both partners are willing to go for it. However, it takes time to really relax and enjoy sex. Don't put pressure on yourself to do everything perfectly, but focus on enjoying the moment and getting to know your preferences. Over time, you will find what works best for you.
In our shop you will find everything you need for a safe and pleasant experience, from skin-friendly lubricants to condoms.
